If you’re in further education, whether that’s university or college, you’ve done almost three months into the year. It might all be starting to get a bit much, the work over-load, late nights and the struggle of juggling a social life, work/uni life is all becoming a bit too real. A part of you may even consider giving up. I know I did.
I studied Architecture in 2009 – god that makes me feel old. In my last year of uni I was so close to giving it all up. Anyone studying within the arts would know it’s as much as it’s to do with talent and hard work, it’s also an unspoken competition. There is a lot of favouritism within certain lecturers/tutors. Probably not fair or right, but it happens. I clearly was not a tutor’s favourite, till this day I wonder why and what did I do to piss her off? There were comments from her ‘what are you doing studying Architecture? Have you ever thought of taking a fashion route?’ I wasn’t sure to feel flattered or insulted? Ever since I was 6 I decided I was going to study Architecture. Should you really be telling someone in their 3rd year of their degree that there chosen path – that they paid £3000 a year – was not for them? I was constantly put down in our one-to-one tutor sessions, hours of work was slayed. It’s safe to say that all of this left me feeling pretty crap and I was ready to quit. But this was my dream, to graduate as an Architect so I had to make changes. Now if you’re in a similar position where you feel like it’s time to give up, whether its college, university or work this may help.
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Time out; take some time for yourself to just think about what is that you want to achieve – the long term plan. If its university – try and visualise putting on a gown and being proud of your achievements. If it’s work – imagine whether or not you want to excel within that field, is it fulfilling you? Being surrounded with people who seem like they’re on top of their game, whilst you’re trying to still get your shiz together, can make things worse. So pull yourself away from everything to just breathe.
Prioritise; so you’ve got essays to write, deadlines to meet, may have social events coming up. All of it can be done if you organise your time. Schedule your working day – and it all sounds good but it means nothing if you don’t stick to the plan. If you say that you’re going to dedicate two hours on Friday evening, then that’s you have to do!
All-nighters; now if you’re nocturnal then all your creative juices will flow in the evening and that’s when you work at your most optimum level. I spent most of my uni time staying up late nights, but none of them would have been productive without pre-planning. Getting all my material and information together. Whether that’s reading material/research/references. Do some serious planning and organise your all-nighter.
Optimistic; do not put yourself down. When you see others excel whilst you’re still trying to catch on. You may start to feel deflated, but that will have a knock on effect on your self-confidence. Stay positive. If’s it’s not okay, it’s not the end.
Reward yourself; I don’t think enough people do this, or maybe they do? Going to uni means a degree, but that’s 3 years down the line. I used to reward myself with a shopping trip or dining out. Whatever floats your boat – reward yourself for doing well. A pat on the back never hurt.
Despite everything if you are still feeling like it’s not for you and getting out is the answer for you then speak to someone for advice, whether that’s a university mentor, a parent, sibling, friend, or even a neighbour. Saying it out loud can help make it real and even if you don’t have a plan – it doesn’t matter. Sometimes the best things in life come unplanned.